For those of you who don’t know, my wife Daphne is a twin.
An identical twin. To Caitlin Clinard. It would be an understatement to say that they’re best friends. It’s crazy how close they are. It’s something I don’t fully understand. And I don’t think I ever will.
Did you know that we all live together too?
Yeah. Ain’t that something? No, I’m not kidding either. I live with my sister-in-law. OH BOY. And her crazy dog. Double oh boy. We three aren’t legally married, yet, but we’re working on it. Totally kidding. That would be so sick! Like sick as in bad.
So every day, I wake up and spend the morning with my sister-in-law. Every night, I see my sister-in-law before bed. IT’S SPECTACULAR. Now before you judge me for my sarcasm, do two things for me: 1) Read the rest of the blog, and 2) Think about what it would look like for you to live with your sister or brother-in-law. Put yourself in my shoes.
It gets better. They work together.
Caitlin started her own kick-arse marketing agency four years ago named Angel Oak Creative. Daphne is her right hand woman. What do our nights look like? Daphne and her sister working. What do our mornings look like? Daphne and her sister working. I know what you’re thinking, “Poor Wells, he must get left out from time to time.” Wrong. I get left out ALL THE TIME.
Now, please don’t misunderstand me. I love my wife and I love my sister-in-law. I really do. But a man can only take so much. I mean seriously! I’m being as real as I can here. It’s been hard. But hard times are where God does some incredible work. And He has been working in my heart, big-time!
The relationship that Daphne and Caitlin share is unlike any I have seen. It has taught me many things—some I’d rather not mention—but here are three ways that Daphne and Caitlin have shown me Jesus.
They’ve taught me more about:
- They always have each other’s back. Even when it means ganging up on me. Do you feel bad for me yet? But isn’t that the love of Jesus? No matter what, He loves us. There is nothing we can do for Him to love us any more or any less than He does at all times. He loves us in spite of our sin, our ugliness, our mess and our shortcomings. Here is the greatest definition of love, other than simply saying “Jesus.” It is recorded in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8: “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Love never ends.” (NLT) Yep, that is Caitlin and Daphne.
- They are so easy to forgive each other. They don’t hold grudges. They don’t bring up the past to hurt one another. They forgive and forget. I mean come on. That ain’t even fair. And neither is God. He gives us abundantly more than we deserve. All we have to do is ask and “He removes our sin as far from us as the east is from the west” (Psalm 103:12).
- They are exactly who they are when they are around each other. There’s no fakeness or pretending or posturing. They are real. They are who God created them to be. Caitlin and Daphne. Heck, it’s hard for me to be me when I’m just around my dog. It’s because they each know that they are loved by the other simply and solely for who they are. Not for what they can do, or who they know, or how much money they make, or how funny they are. They don’t have to pretend they are something they aren’t. And that’s exactly what God wants from all of us. But boy is it hard! And because I’m such a people pleaser, that is radical. I pray often that I would find my identity in Jesus so that I can more fully be the man He created me to be.
Even though they force me into acting like a big buttface, make me want to pull my mullet out (yes I have a mullet now and I rock it with pride), scream at the top of my lungs, and cry and beg for attention, I am grateful that they are twins and that BOTH of them are in my life. They bless my life more than words could ever express. And Caitlin… You rock girl! I sure as heck don’t tell you that enough. And I’m sorry I don’t. I know it’s hard to put up with me, but you have done an outstanding job. Thank you Daphne and Caitlin for loving me well and showing me Jesus!