Isn’t it crazy how we start to resemble and emulate our parents as we grow older? It’s the darndest thing. And trust me, if you haven’t or aren’t experiencing this yet, I guarantee you that you will soon. It’s crazy to me how lots of us grow up thinking our parents are aliens who have no clue about life and what we are going through. I wish I could go back in time and smack myself upside the head. I would love to go back and shake the stupid out of me. I guess I could do that right now too. Give me a second.
I started noticing this several years ago.
You know what’s always bothered me about my dad until recently. He mutes the TV during commercials. I know right, so annoying. How dare him! It would drive me nuts. I’m sure at some point I said to myself that I would never do that. Well, boy was I wrong. I do it. I absolutely do, and I ain’t scared to admit it. The TV commercials are so loud. Why do they do that? Regardless, it’s a great time for some quiet or a brief moment to engage in those around you instead of numbingly watching someone try to brainwash you into buying their product. No thanks Lysol, I’ll pass.
And my mom. The saint that she is.
Did you know that she holds the world records for longest time spent on a phone and most questions asked by anyone who’s ever lived? Well now you do. She asks more questions than I say yall, brotha, or daggonit combined. Well, now I understand that you have to ask questions to get folks that don’t normally talk to talk. It also shows interest. It shows you care about the other person. And it sure as heck beats talking about yourself. Thanks for teaching me this mom.
Those are just two examples.
The list could go on and on. It’s been fun and somewhat embarrassing to think back on my life. Having Declan has been a real eye opener. Are you serious? I had no idea how hard parenting was. I thought I was prepared and ready and it wouldn’t be a thing. Although it’s one of the greatest gifts Jesus could ever give us, it’s pushed and continues to push me in every way. I’m about to burst. But I’m still sticking to my guns that I want 7 kids.
What I believe now is way different than what I thought I believed as a kid. Check out the differences below, they are diabolically opposing.
Growing up …
I thought Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy were real. I thought fitting in meant rebelling. I thought fitting in was what life was about. I thought bowl cuts were the best haircuts. I thought everyone loved Jesus. I thought everyone had a mom and dad who loved each other. I thought I was a grown man who could make decisions for myself. I thought I had all the answers. I thought being “cool” meant smoking cigarettes at a young age. I thought having sex before marriage would make me “the man.” I thought strip clubs were fun to go to. I thought lying and cheating weren’t a big deal. I thought porn wasn’t a big deal. I thought success in soccer would give me ultimate peace. I thought soccer was my only dream. I thought school was for nerds. I thought I had to always look out for number one, myself. I thought putting people down would lift me up. I thought it would be great to please everyone. I thought ultimate truth was determined by the individual. I thought God wanted us to be “good little boys and girls.” I thought Gods love was conditional to my behavior. I thought Christianity was a list of do’s and don’ts. I thought Jesus was religion.
I believe the Tooth Fairy and Easter Bunny are the devil (only kidding). I believe in looking for the outcast to love. I believe God has blessed me with way more than I deserve. I believe in humility. I believe in serving others. I believe it’s way better to give then to receive. I believe being cool is way overrated. I believe in how my parents raised me. I believe God has great purpose for every single one of us. I believe waiting until marriage for sex makes you “the man.” I believe waiting to have sex until marriage is the most respectful thing you can do for a woman. I believe bowl cuts are still the best haircuts. I believe there are too many broken hearts and broken homes. I believe the breakdown of the family infrastructure is a huge reason for the poor state of our country. And world for that matter. I believe being cool is living a life for the glory of God. I believe strip clubs and pornography are insanely evil and should be done away with. I believe living with integrity and character is how a real man lives. I believe God gave me greater dreams than just becoming a professional soccer player. I believe learning and growing are vital in becoming all God has created us to be. I believe I’ll never have all the answers. I believe lifting others up brings joy. I believe you can’t live a life of conviction and please everyone. I believe relative moralism is a crock of horse poo-poo! I believe Jesus is the truth, the way, and the life! I believe there’s nothing that we can do for God to love us anymore or any less than He does at all times. I believe God loves us way more than we can ever imagine. I believe you were meant for greatness! I believe the Bible is ultimate truth! I believe Jesus wants a relationship, not religion.
We are not who we once were.
[tweetthis]In Christ, we are a new creation. Our old life is gone and our new life is here (2 Corinthians 5:17).[/tweetthis] Live in freedom my brothas and sistas!