Fear

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You know what scares me?

This. Writing. And sharing that writing. Trying to communicate what’s in my head and heart in some coherent fashion. But that’s part of why I do it. Because it scares me.

Why does writing scare me? Great question. Vulnerability has a lot to do with it. Being open about how you feel and what you think can be difficult. Also, I don’t particularly consider myself a “good” writer. I feel inadequate when it comes to writing. Whatever that means. It’s so much easier and more comfortable to share what you’re good at. Which is where hesitation comes in. We must get over the fear of looking bad and caring too much what others think. That in itself can be super hard.

Are you ever hesitant to take the next step because something’s unfinished? I never feel like I’m finished writing the piece I’m writing. It could always be better. So much better. And this is usually where the hold-up occurs. Where inaction takes place. We don’t follow through, take the next step, or publish something because ‘we’re still working on it.’ And then it never gets done. How many times have you fallen victim to this process? I sure have, over and over again. But I’m combating this. I’m committing to writing more often. And then sharing whether it’s finished or not.

I love writing. I love what it does for me. It’s therapeutic. It helps me process. Helps me make sense of the craziness that goes on in that ole noggin of mine. And I enjoy sharing it in hopes it blesses others. We go through what we do, not only for ourselves, but for others as well. Reminds me of…

2 Corinthians 1:4 (MSG): “All praise to the God and Father of our Master, Jesus the Messiah! Father of all mercy! God of all healing counsel! He comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, he brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us.”

Being scared is uncomfortable.

But getting out of our comfort zone is where the magic, a.k.a. growth, happens. Being scared and facing your fears head-on gives you courage. Strength for the future. And perspective and peace. Knowing that it’s not as bad as you think it’ll be. Although not an extraordinary fear, sharing my writing is one for me. But every time I write and share, I literally feel the fear diminish. It seems to get easier. I feel the confidence well up. I recognize I’m capable of more than I can imagine. And so are you!

We all have fears.

What are yours? Whatever they are, acknowledge them. Then come up with a plan to face them. Execute that plan. And kick fears freakin’ arse! As Tim Ferriss once said…

“Fear is your friend. It’s an indicator. Sometimes it shows you what you shouldn’t do. More often than not it shows you exactly what you should do. And the best results that I’ve had in life, the most enjoyable times, have all been from asking a simple question: What’s the worst that can happen?”

So… speak out, stand up, ask the girl out, sing karaoke, publish that blog, get that haircut, wear that hat, ask for help, forgive, apologize, skydive, sign up for that 100 mile race, start that company, give that speech… It doesn’t matter if it’s something as superficial as a haircut or addressing something as deep seated as shame. You’ll be better off facing your fears!

That’s why I choose to write on!

Be brave. Be bold. Keep the faith,

Wells

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